Some of common challenges we see in relationships include lack of trust, difficulties communicating, prior relationship/family trauma negatively impacting engagement and attachment; as well as shifts in sexuality or identity which necessitate change within the relationship.
Our counsellors help you identify the dysfunctional patterns you got trapped in that are creating disconnection in the relationship. We work with you to get re-connected, understand one another, feel heard, and communicate more effectively; so, you can both experience greater fulfillment in your relationship.
I believe relationships are one of the most rewarding aspects of our lives. They have the capacity to bring with them a deep sense of fulfillment, security, and connection. It takes effort to maintain and recover these healthy qualities in a relationship when we get off track. I bring couples back to the root of what brought them together by helping them negative patterns they've been trapped in that threw the dynamic of the relationship into disarray.
Clients will come to discover the root of common, debilitating, and perpetuating patterns that prevent them from connecting, understanding one another, feeling heard, and communicating in effective ways. Some of these challenges include trust, communication, prior relationship/family trauma, and attachment; as well as shifts in sexuality or identity which necessitate change within the relationship. Through increasing awareness and understanding of how these arise, we work through alleviating these stuck patterns and learn to engage in ways that lead couple's back to intimacy and connection.
I primarily approach Couples' Counselling with Relational Life Therapy techniques which I use to create permanent, positive change in relationships. Through my practical, empathetic, and direct therapeutic approaches and interventions I help couples recover, reconnect, and work in partnership towards having their needs met in the relationship.
I provide couples' counselling for those in non-monogamous, monogamous, polyamorous, and kink.
The primary approach I use in couples' counselling is Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT). I use EFT because it is based on emotions being the center of how we experience ourselves and our relationships. When we go through life suppressing and invalidating our emotions, the bond within the relationship weakens leading to disconnection. I aim to help clients break these cycles so they can get back to connection.
Emotions can explain so much about what is happening in a relationship, including poor communication, distress, or conflict resulting in negative interactions such as attacking or withdrawing. My goal is to help clients strengthen their emotional bond through teaching them how to understand and attend to emotions, rather than suppress or invalidate them.
During therapy, clients will learn to identify, regulate, and effectively communicate their experience. If emotions are constantly suppressed, the relationship bond weakens, and over time, the relationship gets caught up in a repetitive negative cycle. Clients will learn how to make sense of their feelings, manage them, and use them positively to meet their needs and goals and improve their relationship with their partner. When this happens, this builds intimacy, closeness, security, and closeness, autonomy for the couple.